What is self defending?

How do u define self defend? izit take every advantages and opportunities to yourself? izit u can sacrifice your friends and family members to gain yourself a better life? izit stopping yourself to give out things which is possible for you to others in order to make them happier? but......i don think these is right at all...... will u feel safer after u take everything from others? will u feel happier when u grab every advantages? will u feel that u r the best among others if u have all the opportunities? Do u think that u really that important to yourself? if your answers are yes for the questions above........i think u have to reset your mindset.........self defend is to avoid yourself to get into problem which u r not deserve to have.....self defend is to avoid yourself from being hurt by others but it doesn't mean that by doing this u have to hurt others.....self defend is to fight for your rights by not insulting others.......self defend is to defend things u have but not forcing, stealing or grabbing others things......self defend is to defend things which u r deserve to have and not what u think u deserve to have.....Many people are misunderstanding this theory.......i hope u all will really think about this seriously......cause its affect your life and others life badly...nitez